Decide first, then ask the AI

You'll be able to commit your own answer before any AI sees the problem, and catch the AI when it's wrong.

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Ask an AI what a client's homepage should lead with, and you'll have a fluent answer in seconds. Once you've seen it, it's hard to think past it.

So before I ask the AI anything that needs judgment, I write my own answer down. What the homepage is for. Which photo leads. A few lines, in a file, with a date on it. It can be wrong, and it usually needs adjusting. But it exists before the machine's version does, and that changes how I read the machine's version.

The order matters. First you, with your position written down. Then the evidence: what the client sent, what a search turns up. Then the AI. Then you again. Put the two answers side by side and decide. Where you agree, move on. Where you differ, one of you knows something the other doesn't, and your job is to find out which.

This is one for a fictional bakery. Regulars come for bread, not cakes, so the position is the morning queue photo. Then the evidence, and what I'm unsure about. Don't skip that line. It tells you where the AI might actually help. Below it, after the AI has answered, what it said and what I did. It wanted to lead with cakes because they carry a higher margin. Maybe they do. But nobody gave it any margins. It made up a reason that sounded commercial, so my answer stood, and the file says why.

Look at the two habits side by side. Ask first, and you're editing its draft. You argue with its headings and its order, and you rarely step outside them. Decide first, and you're comparing two drafts, one of them yours, and every disagreement turns into a question you can check. Make a save point with the position file before you open the chat, and your version history shows you decided first. When a client asks how much of the work the AI did, you can show them.

Sometimes the AI will be right and you'll be wrong. That's part of why you asked. Change your mind, and add a line to the position file saying what changed it. Sounding confident doesn't count as a reason. The other half of the habit is a log, one file, where every time the AI is wrong or sure about something it couldn't know, you write down what it said and how you caught it. After a few weeks you'll see patterns. Maybe it keeps inventing dates, or reaches for the same layout every time. Each pattern becomes a rule in the project file it reads at the start of every session.

An entry looks like this. The AI wrote family-run since 1998 into the bakery's homepage copy. Nothing the client sent mentions 1998. It sounded right, and that's how a line like this gets through. I caught it because I check every fact against a source, and this one had none. So it became a placeholder and a question for the client.

Write your answer down first. Then ask.

Whoever answers first sets the frame

Read a fluent AI answer and you can't unread it. From then on you're editing its draft. So the order is fixed: your answer first, then the evidence, then the AI, then you decide.

  1. YouWrite your position
  2. ToolsCheck the evidence
  3. AIAsk for its answer
  4. YouReconcile, and say why
Asking first
  • You edit its draft
  • Its frame becomes yours
Deciding first
  • You compare two drafts
  • Disagreements become questions
  • History shows who went first

At the bakery: what goes at the top of the homepage?

The owner of a neighborhood bakery wants a homepage. Before anyone asks an AI, she has to decide what visitors see first.

  1. The question

    What should lead the homepage?

  2. Her first answer, and why

    Position: lead with the morning queue photo.

    Regulars come for bread, not cakes.

    Evidence: the reviews I read mostly mention bread.

    Unsure: does wholesale need its own page?

  3. The AI suggests something else

    AI

    Lead with cakes, 'higher margin'.

  4. She checks both against what she knows

    TestHer answerThe AI's
    Who the homepage is forRegulars, who come for breadNot mentioned
    What it rests onThe reviews she read mostly mention breadA margin figure nobody gave it
    Can she check it?Yes: she can reread the reviewsNo: there are no margins to check
  5. Her decision, with the reason written down

    Kept mine. Nobody gave it margins.

    If the AI had been right, she'd have changed her mind and added a line to the note saying what changed it.

Fictional client, from this skill's video.

Write your answer down first. Then ask.

Try it: one decision, before and after

The same bakery also sells bread to a few cafés. Should wholesale get its own page in the site's menu?

  1. Show an AI suggestion

    A prepared example of what an AI might say (not a live AI)

    Yes. Give wholesale its own page with a price list, minimum order sizes and a trade order form. Cafés expect a dedicated trade section, and it signals that you're an established supplier.

  2. Compare the two

    • Which of its reasons rests on something the owner actually told it?
    • What does it add that nobody has confirmed? (Prices, minimums, an order form.)
    • Did it raise anything you hadn't thought of that's worth checking?

Nothing you type here is saved or sent anywhere. Reload the page and it's gone.

The technical version The same habit in files

In a real project the note is a dated file the AI can read. Commit it to Git (the project's history) before you open the chat, and the history shows you decided first.

A position note (fictional bakery)
1decisions/homepage-lead.md 2026-10-06
2
3Position: lead with the morning queue photo.
4Regulars come for bread, not cakes.
5Evidence: the reviews I read mostly mention bread.
6Unsure: does wholesale need its own page?
7
8AI said: lead with cakes, 'higher margin'.
9Kept mine. Nobody gave it margins.
An AI log entry (fictional)
1log/ai-log.md
2
32026-10-06 homepage copy
4Said: 'family-run since 1998'.
5Source: none. Not in anything the client sent.
6Caught: checked every fact against claims.md.
7Fix: [CONFIRM: founding year], added to checklist.